Wayne Dyer’s 10 Secrets for Success & Inner Peace: Secret 1

94857135873008921_cZoVDmYi_cHow do you define success?  In Wayne Dyer’s book, 10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace, he talks about “The peace of God that truly defines success.”  Oh, but doesn’t that sound blissful?

Secret 1

Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing.

There are so many ways that we learn to attach the idea of success to different expectations.  Expectations of our parents, our teachers, our religion, society and our culture.  How is it that some people have the ability at a young age to ignore those expectations and go forth in the world with the freedom to be who they were created to be, while the rest of us struggle with the need to please in such a way that it exceeds our ability to be true to ourselves?

Having a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing seems to me to be one of the most basic principles that you can adopt to contribute to individual and world peace.

Individual and world peace.  Isn’t that what we all dream of?  Can it really be as simple as Wayne Dyer makes it sound?  So where do we begin?  Wayne instructs us to first release our attachments by changing how we view ourselves.  To be attached to nothing means no longer identifying yourself through your body’s appearance and your possessions.  Being attached to these things allows the ego to be the dominating force in your life.  By letting go of these attachments and taming the ego, your spirit can become the guiding force in your life instead.

Sounds so easy, doesn’t it?  However, like any lifelong habit, this can be a hard one to break.  It doesn’t happen overnight, and some days are better than others.  Meditation and prayer can help get us there and keep us on the right path.  The ego will always try to regain control, so a daily ritual of being still and letting God’s guiding light into your day is an important practice in making and maintaining this transition.

The Scriptures say, “With God all things are possible.”

A mind that’s open to everything means being peaceful, radiating love, practicing forgiveness, being generous, respecting all life, and most important, visualizing yourself as capable of doing anything that you can conceive of in your mind and heart.

If all things are truly possible, then we have nothing to worry about, right?  And yet worry we do.  We worry about everything.  If we can learn to let go of that worry and be patient in knowing that everything will happen at exactly the right time, would that not make it so much easier to be open to everything and attached to nothing?  In the knowing that whatever God has planned for us will happen in exactly His perfect timing, we have no reason to worry about potential lack or loss.  This knowing will truly result in inner peace.

A Course in Miracles states, “Infinite patience produces immediate results.”  It implies that in your patience you know with certainty that what you would like to manifest will show up in perfect order, right on time.

Wayne’s first secret has two parts: (1) a mind that is open to everything, and (2) a mind that is attached to nothing.  Again, he says that our attachments are the source of all of our problems.  “The need to be right, to possess someone or something, to win at all costs, to be viewed by others as superior – these are all attachments.”  Imagine what the world would be like if we could all learn to let go of these attachments!

In all of your relationships, if you can love someone enough to allow them to be exactly what they choose to be – without any expectations or attachments from you – you’ll know true peace in your lifetime.

Now that’s a life I want to be a part of!  Shalom!


Marrow: A Love Story by Elizabeth Lesser

marrowAs so often happens with me, a recent interview I saw on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday led me to my next soul-journey book.  This wasn’t the first time I had seen Oprah’s interview with Elizabeth Lesser, but it was the first time that the interview led me to buy and read this book.

Oftentimes I am inspired by a spiritual teacher I see with Oprah, I purchase their book, and about a third of the way through I discover another teacher/book, and I am like a squirrel, not sure which delectable nut to chase first.  The end result is that I start a lot of wonderful books, but finish few.

Not so with Marrow.  This book met me right where I live.  When Elizabeth shared with Oprah that her sister Maggie told her the last year of her illness, the year before her death when she was in emotional and physical pain beyond our understanding, was the best year of her life, I knew I had to know more.  What could have led Maggie to feel this way?  What can we learn from Maggie so that we can live the best year of our life every year without having to endure a life-ending illness to get there?

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Let the Universe Rise Up to Meet You

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Oprah’s interview with India Arie is a beautiful lesson in having the confidence to follow your own God-given instincts.  Of the many lessons in this interview well worth watching, one valuable take away that India shares is this:  When you follow your instincts for God’s plan on your life, the Universe will rise up to meet you where you are.

My reading this morning from Marianne Williamson’s book A Return to Love:  Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles, continued this theme for me.  Marianne’s book carries the blessings of a daily devotional.  I relate to her teachings because she is preaching what I believe: God Is Love.  Jesus Is Love.  If we all conducted ourselves from this foundation, I believe the travesties of today’s society would cease.

This morning’s reading resonated with me not because of its impact on a global level but because it hits me where I am today.  A creative with an entrepreneurial spirit and a strong desire to help others, I am as far removed from a “salesperson” as you could be.  My “anti-sales” attitude causes me to stand in my own way in my desire to help others, however.  I am so strongly opposed to “selling” someone that I sometimes prevent myself from doing what I really want to do:  help them.

“When we are motivated by the desire to sell, we are only looking out for ourselves.  When we are motivated by the desire to serve, we are looking out for others.”  Marianne Williamson

The Universe is truly meeting me where I am this morning, leading me to read this chapter at a time when I needed it most.  Mary Ann talks about the concept of refusing to do what you feel called to do because you “can’t make a living doing it.”  In the interview I watched last night between Oprah and India, they talked about the “walking dead,” people who are just existing in the world, not doing what they were sent here to do because they don’t see how they could support themselves doing it, or they lack the confidence to follow their instincts and just do it. They end up just going through the motions of life, not truly living.  Even worse, the failure to do what you were created to do causes depression, irritability, and physical disease.

“Whatever it is you want to do, give it away to your community.”  Marianne Williamson

This is so in keeping with where I am today.  In a conference call with my Wildtree director last week, I told her I just don’t want to be a salesperson.  I cannot approach my business that way.  It is the total antithesis of who I am.  I have to work in service to others, and if God wants me to make a living doing it, that’s great, but that cannot be my reason for doing it.  I am doing it for the shear pleasure of helping others, and I am letting God decide what that will look like.

Thank you, Universe, for rising up to meet me where I am with these messages from my Sisters in Christ.


Elizabeth Gilbert on Super Soul Sunday

Elizabeth Gilbert on Super Soul Sunday

Elizabeth Gilbert on Super Soul Sunday

“What have I come here to do with my life?  You can choose to ignore that question, or you can pursue it.  The pursuit is the beginning of the journey.”  Elizabeth Gilbert

Most women know Elizabeth Gilbert as the author of Eat, Pray, Love, the woman who took a year to travel the world in pursuit of her purpose.  While most of us don’t have the luxury of running away for a year the way she did, we do have the power to change our lives in significant ways.  We just have to put one foot in front of the other and begin the pursuit, even if the only steps we can currently take are to start making a plan.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”  Anais Nin

Everyone has a calling on their life, a reason they are here.  Many of us choose to ignore the call out of fear, or give up on the call at some point along the path because the road becomes too difficult.  Elizabeth shares how extraordinary life can become if you hang on tight through the rocky terrain  and see it through to the pinnacle of your calling.  Give it a listen.  You’ll be glad you did.

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”  Anais Nin

Wildtree Freezer Meals

Freezer meals are great for busy families – you can spend 90 minutes preparing 10 meals, pop them in the freezer, and pull one out as needed with the prep already done.  Since there are only two of us, I don’t make large batches of freezer meals for Danny and myself very often, but I do love them as an option for helping others.  Recently my Mom had surgery, and I was able to put together several meals that can go in her freezer so that she has them at the ready as she needs them.  My Dad likes to grill, so meals from the Get Your Grill On set from Wildtree was a great choice for them.

Although the freezer meal workshops from Wildtree come with 10 different meal recipes, you don’t have to make them all if some don’t look like something your family would like.  You will use the leftover seasonings for other meals regardless!  There were 7 meals in this set that I thought my parents would like, and they make enough that I was able to split some off to keep for Danny and me!


I can’t tell you what a good feeling it was to fill my parents’ freezer with prepared meals so that they have one less thing to think about for a while.  Giving is such a blessing!  Shalom!

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Love Is Strength

As so often happens in life, the idea of forgiveness that I was being led to follow and share yesterday was “coincidentally” continued this morning through the book I am currently reading.  If you have not read Marianne Williamson’s “A Return to Love:  Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles,” it is worth your effort.  If more people in this world followed these principles, we would share a peaceful existence that would bless every one of us.

“To the ego, love is weakness.  To the Holy Spirit, love is strength.”

Marianne shares a story in which she had been hurt by someone.  To any one of us, she would have been justified to be very angry and react accordingly to the other individual in the situation.  Because she was practicing the principles taught by Helen Schucman and William Thetford in “A Course in Miracles,” she knew she would not get the results she wanted if she reacted the same way she had in similar past situations.  We all know that definition of insanity, right?

“I gave the situation to God and remembered that I need do nothing.”

Marianne doesn’t claim that this new found practice was easy.  But she does share that by working to release the situation to God and let Him handle it rather than react toward a brother in anger, she achieved the results that she desired.  What were those results?  They were not to allow that individual to continue in her life in the same context that he had been involved with her before – that would indeed be weakness.  But it was the ability to deal with the individual from a place of peace and love while at the same time disallowing him to be in her life in the way he had been previously.  She was able to hold her head high as she dealt with the situation from a place of love, which in the end demonstrated great strength that would never have been achieved had she lashed out in anger.  She was able to walk away from the situation in peace and contentment, which is all she really wanted in the first place.  Don’t we all?

“As long as I was not at peace, my behavior would carry the energy of my conflict.  Conflicted behavior cannot bring peace.  It can only produce more conflict.”

Marianne’s story is nothing compared to the conflicts that we are experiencing today, but the principles are the same.  We cannot eradicate evil with evil.  We cannot heal hurt by inflicting hurt, and we cannot heal anger with anger.  If this song did not make sense yesterday, I hope Marianne’s story will help shed light on it today.

We All Bleed Red


When I heard this song on my Itunes playlist on my way to work this morning, I knew I had to learn it as soon as I returned home this afternoon.  It is so timely, with all of the pain we are experiencing today.  I couldn’t wait and do it proper-like, recording it in the studio and letting Danny do his magic on the recording and video – I just had to send the message out now, without a minute to waste, so I settled for an Iphone recording.  There is so much pain and hurt and suffering.  But we cannot heal pain by inflicting more pain.  We cannot heal hurt by inflicting more hurt.  We cannot eradicate evil with evil.  We are all human beings, all children of God who share one Father and one Mother Earth.  None of us can be completely healed until we all are healed.  And that can only be done with love.  God bless you.  #orlandostrong

Thank you Ronnie Dunn for recording this beautiful song.

April 28: The Intuitive Sense

pinkpalmtreesIntuition is a spiritual faculty, and does not explain, but simply points the way.  Florence Scovel Shinn

Sarah refers to intuition as “the subliminal sense Spirit endowed us with to maneuver safely through the maze that is real life.”  We have all experienced the positive results of listening to our intuition, as well as the negative results that come when we ignore it.

When I decided to move to Florida from upstate New York in 2005, I knew, deep down in my gut, that it was a move I was supposed to be making.  Intellectually, it made no sense.  I had a great job.  I had just bought the house I was in and renovated it barely a year before.  I was a single mother.  I had no idea how I would find the energy or wherewithal to do everything it would take to sell my home, find a job a three-hour flight away, find a new home, and have all of the pieces of the puzzle work in such a way that I could make it all happen.  I couldn’t imagine how it would all come together, I just knew deep down in my spirit that I had to do it.  I forged forward in a total leap of faith, and the entire process went off without a hitch.  My house sold the day I flew to Florida for job interviews.  I had a job offer before returning to New York at the end of that weekend.  My new employer was willing to wait three months for me to start so that my son could finish the school year.  I somehow found the energy and strength to pack up the house, find a new house, and get everything moved 1300 miles away. During that period, I heard a sermon at church that couldn’t have rung more true:  When you listen to where you are being led, and you follow, you will find yourself in the zone. Continue reading “April 28: The Intuitive Sense”

February 27: “Committing to Your Spiritual Awakening”

Suzette1“If you commit to your spiritual awakening as the most important part of the process, something marvelous will happen.”  Sarah Ban Breathnach

The impact that I see from this spiritual awakening is subtle and substantial at the same time.  I notice it most often at times when I would normally have found myself frazzled or tense, like when I need to be someplace and the dog is taking forever in the yard, or I am in traffic and want to hurry up and get where I am going.  I don’t have the same frenetic response that I would have had six months ago.  I am (mostly) no longer scolding Abby to hurry up; rather, I am enjoying the fresh air and listening to the birds sing to me while she finds the “perfect spot.”  I am peaceful in my driving, no longer rushing the person in front of me with frustrated words mumbled under my breath.  I am, simply, more relaxed.

“With each day of the journey, you have become more open to the mystery, the magic, and the majesty of the Master Plan because you are committed to your spiritual awakening.”  SBB

I am no less busy, nor am I working any less hard.  I am just less stressed about it.  I am relaxed, feeling the presence of Spirit, and paying attention when I get the message to take some time to feed my soul.  Tonight, for example, after enjoying dinner with friends, I took one of my guitars off the wall and played for two hours – the first time I have played in months.  There was work to be done, but I chose to listen to the whispers telling me that the work can be done tomorrow; for now, it is time to create.  I find that creation, artistic expression, is a beautiful form of prayer, and I am grateful to have awakened my soul enough to heed the message that this certain prayer time is long overdue.  I am transported to heaven, bowing my head over my guitar, smelling its varnished wood and listening to its melody while I sing with the voice that God gave me.  It doesn’t get much better than that.


February 25: Reordering Your Priorities


“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose.”  Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

How have you been doing at taking your quiet meditation time each day? I hope you have been doing better than I have recently.  I am sorry to admit that these last few weeks, I have not spent enough time in silence.  I am living at this harried, frenetic pace, so much to do and so little time.  But then, once again, I hear the now familiar voice coming from within … “Relax.  Enjoy the moment.  All will be done as it is supposed to be.”  I smile to myself during those moments, recognizing the progress that I am making on this journey of transformation.

I took one of those moments last night, enjoying my grandsons for a few hours and ignoring the work I had planned for the evening.  I have been working so much I have barely seen them in recent weeks, and they were so excited to see me (and I them!) that I couldn’t leave them.  So I stayed.  I stayed and let my heart fill with the joy of listening to one after the other say, “Nana, watch this!”, so excited were they to have my attention.  They have no sense of time.  These beautiful little spirits live in the moment and enjoy it to the fullest, with no thoughts about needing to hurry up and finish what they are doing because it will be bath time soon.  They don’t worry about that.  They don’t worry about what is waiting for them.  They are completely, wholly in the present and loving every minute of it.  Oh what we can learn from them, and what a gift it was to myself to allow myself time to be still and enjoy their presence without thinking about the work that was waiting for me.

“Today make getting in touch with the Silence within your first priority.  As you do, you will be amazed at how everything else seems to find its own order.”  Sarah Ban Breathnach

I didn’t get here overnight, and the transformation isn’t going to happen overnight either, but as long as I am moving in the direction of positive change, I can be satisfied.  I will try harder to learn the lessons my grandsons teach me about enjoying the moment without worrying about what is next.  And I will work harder to get my butt in that meditation chair every day.  Maybe if I write it on my schedule that will help …